20 Simple Social Skills That Will Make You Instantly More Likable
It’s OK to stroke egos
Flattery “grabs people directly by their ego and is therefore extremely effective,” writes Quora user Julian Reisinger.
Flattery comes with a caveat though. Too much can be a huge turn-off, especially if it doesn’t seem genuine and it feels too treacly.
For those uncomfortable about doling out praise, Halvorson says that a particularly effective method of affirmation, which makes another person feel effective and valuable, is to ask questions that allow them to focus on what is meaningful about themselves and their lives.
Reisinger suggests using conversation openers that make the other person feel like an expert, such as “You know a lot about social marketing, don’t you?” or “Do you know why I always get this error message?”
This way, you learn something new and the other person gets to feel needed. “It’s as easy as that, it’s a win-win, and it works 100% of the time,” Reisinger says.